Tuesday, June 29, 2010

STRONG... STRONGER... STRONGEST...




Human beings possess an incredible ability to be strong. Always more capable than one believes. I am surprised with the thoughts of strength and capability pass through my head on the day I feel so relaxed after coming back from my most glorious 3 day week-end in Parainen Turku. 


Yet, who can stop the thoughts that run like wild horses ? Not me certainly. So I cope with the reality of it just as I  I cope successfully with life's challenge. I was witnessing a lifestyle that was so different from mine. For a while I was nervous but I knew the wisdom that life itself possess and who am I to control it. Let stupid nervousness take control of me to make me in charge of something I can't manage in the first place... I am wise enough to know that this will end up with me feeling guilty. or nervous. 


The weeks, days, and hours leading up to an event that we believe will test our limits, we can become nervous. While we may have previously regarded ourselves as equal to the trials that lie ahead, we reach a point at which they near and our anxiety begins to mount. We then become increasingly worked up, until the moment of truth arrives and we discover that our worry was all for nothing. We are almost always stronger and more capable than we believe ourselves to be. But anxiety is not rational in nature, which means that in most cases we cannot work through it using logic as our only tool. Reason can help us recognize the relative futility of unwarranted worry but, more often than not, we will find more comfort in patterns of thought and activity that redirect our attention to practical or engaging matters.

Most of us find it remarkably difficult to focus on two distinct thoughts or emotions at once, and we can use this natural human limitation to our advantage when trying to stay centered in the period leading up to a potentially tricky experience. When we concentrate on something unrelated to our worry├│such as deep breathing, visualizations of success, pleasurable pursuits, or exercise├│anxiety dissipates naturally. Meditation is also a useful coping mechanism as it provides us with a means to ground ourselves in the moment. Our guides can aid us by providing us with a focal point wholly outside of our own sphere.

The intense emotional flare-up you experience just before you are set to challenge yourself is often a mixture of both excitement and fear. When you take steps to eliminate the fear, you can more fully enjoy the excitement. Though you may find it difficult to avoid getting worked up, your awareness of the forces acting on your feelings will help you return to your center and accept that few hurdles you will face will be as high as they at first appear.



Daily OM !!!!

Tuesday, June 1, 2010

Maybe out of sight-But-Never out of mind.

It feels wonderful to sit here and write after a long busy day of an unemployed Indian in Finland while A is napping, with people flying over Pohois Haaga (Northern Huopalahti) with an expanse of greenery in front of my window, all around. Birds chirping away, squirrels squeaking (sometimes they give me a head ache... Still better than traffic noise I reckon). I Have been just painfully busy the last couple of weeks, with organising  couch surfers week-end (June 10-June 12th) but things should slow down after this.
 
A was in sweden last working week, while I was exploring Helsinki with some friends as usual, but being alone at home wasn't fun at all. I lugged myself around in the house humming "Ain't no sunshine when he's gone" true to the song it was a long sad gloomy rainy week, with the day stretching on till 2am GAH!!! He came back on friday; packed with a load of sunshine, Fun times again; we were at the world village fest, which was just so wonderful. The food was our top priority and I didn't buy anything (can you guys imagine that ???) The whole feel was similar to our Shilpa Ramam, only with fewer tidier stalls I must say. 

A received a mail from the Embassy asking me to submit my passport, which I did this morning, so now we only have to wait and watch the story after the interval.  This evening I did my first Finnish language lesson. Free lessons for Immigrants with a certain level of English proficiency, conducted by the Blue cross of Finland. Oh MY GOD, felt just crazy to be on the other side of a foreign language class. My dearest Finnish friend (who is a volunteer there and is the one to have informed me of it) was there to help me out at some difficult situations... However the entire hour and half of class felt like a bumpy fast ride, me emerging on the other side with a super strong headache and 2 complete sentences in Finnish. 

I am slowly stepping past that "Ohh MY first finnish etc" area to "Oh I have seen/done this before" area... Still feels FUN. So much more to look forward to. Slowly building up our new support system, making really good friends who are taking good care of us. Friends are new family., Yet, nothing and no one can replace the family in our lives. In a country that's so far away from home where we still can't tell a friend from a stranger, we survive because of the strength they founded in us.